Crooner,
I’m in a bad situation that I didn’t create. My wife’s niece is 27, I’m 29, and my wife is 32. My wife has always treated her niece like a sister and gave her a key to our house. She comes over almost every day. I work in the evening time and my wife works in the morning. Usually when she comes over, I am in my bedroom working on the computer or watching television. She normally stays in the family room talking on her cell phone. A few days ago, I heard a knock on my bedroom door and went to see what she wanted. When I opened the door she was standing there crying and I asked her what was wrong. She said that she and her boyfriend had broken up and she just needed someone to talk to. I walked back to the family room and talked to her for a few minutes before she asked me if I had anything to drink. The only thing I had was some red wine, so I offered it to her and went back to my bedroom. I had to get ready for work and went to take a shower. Normally I lock my bedroom door, but for some reason I forgot. While in the shower, I heard the bathroom door open. It startled me and I asked ‘what is it?’ without saying a word she opened the shower door and got in with me. She said, ‘I need you.’ I ran out the shower, dried off and put my clothes on. I left the house and went to work. I called my wife twice, on the way to work and when I arrived. Both times I was unable to say anything about her niece. Who should I talk to about this situation, my wife, her niece, or both of them at the same time?
Help Me Somebody
Friday, April 18, 2008
Mrs. TM Ref : Help Me Somebody/My Husband
Mr. Johnson,
I am still trying to understand how people could call in to a radio show and make the kind of comments I heard, without even knowing a person. The only radio stations that we listen to are Christian programming and for my husband to be involved with a program like this proves that something is wrong with him. I was shocked and disturbed that people are so evil. Let me try to set the record straight. My niece is not the monster that people have made her out to be. She was the President of her high school’s Abstinence and Moral Responsibility Committee; she graduated at the top of her class and received a full academic scholarship to Brigham Young University. Her college years were cut short when she was fooled into thinking that she was going to attend a student bible study session, instead, she was drugged and raped repeatedly for over eight hours by several men. It took three years of counseling to bring her out of the traumatic state that she was in resulting from this violent attack. Four years later, through prayer and the support of her family, she finally left out of her mother’s home.
The only place she goes is to church or my house. She just started dating for the first time in her life just three months ago. She also started teaching Sunday school for children. For the first time in over seven years, we finally started to see some normalcy in her life again. My sister called and told me something was wrong with my niece the night before we found out what had happen. My husband still has not admitted to doing anything wrong; however, our pastor said that he did admit to ‘finding her attractive.’ That alone is enough for the ‘spirit of lust’ to infect the brain and make of man of God do evil things. We will get to the bottom of this and God will be the final judge. My husband has been sanctioned by the church for putting this out on the radio and he will be punished by the Elders.
I was blessed by our pastor who allowed me to respond to the witches and devils whose tongues have spoken guile words against my niece. Go with God.
Mrs. TM
I am still trying to understand how people could call in to a radio show and make the kind of comments I heard, without even knowing a person. The only radio stations that we listen to are Christian programming and for my husband to be involved with a program like this proves that something is wrong with him. I was shocked and disturbed that people are so evil. Let me try to set the record straight. My niece is not the monster that people have made her out to be. She was the President of her high school’s Abstinence and Moral Responsibility Committee; she graduated at the top of her class and received a full academic scholarship to Brigham Young University. Her college years were cut short when she was fooled into thinking that she was going to attend a student bible study session, instead, she was drugged and raped repeatedly for over eight hours by several men. It took three years of counseling to bring her out of the traumatic state that she was in resulting from this violent attack. Four years later, through prayer and the support of her family, she finally left out of her mother’s home.
The only place she goes is to church or my house. She just started dating for the first time in her life just three months ago. She also started teaching Sunday school for children. For the first time in over seven years, we finally started to see some normalcy in her life again. My sister called and told me something was wrong with my niece the night before we found out what had happen. My husband still has not admitted to doing anything wrong; however, our pastor said that he did admit to ‘finding her attractive.’ That alone is enough for the ‘spirit of lust’ to infect the brain and make of man of God do evil things. We will get to the bottom of this and God will be the final judge. My husband has been sanctioned by the church for putting this out on the radio and he will be punished by the Elders.
I was blessed by our pastor who allowed me to respond to the witches and devils whose tongues have spoken guile words against my niece. Go with God.
Mrs. TM
Friday, April 4, 2008
Pat Buchanan's Speech
this is a copy of Pat Buchanan's speech from a few days ago, it was given in response to obama's speech on race.From Buchanan's March 21 column:Barack says we need to have a conversation about race in America.Fair enough. But this time, it has to be a two-way conversation.
White America needs to be heard from, not just lectured to.This time, the Silent Majority needs to have its convictions, grievances and demands heard. And among them are these:
First, America has been the best country on earth for black folks. It was here that 600,000 black people, brought from Africa in slave ships, grew into a community of 40 million, were introduced to Christian salvation, and reached the greatest levels of freedom and prosperity blacks have ever known.Wright ought to go down on his knees and thank God he is an American.Second, no people anywhere has done more to lift up blacks than white Americans.
Untold trillions have been spent since the '60s on welfare, food stamps, rent supplements, Section 8 housing, Pell grants, student loans, legal services, Medicaid, Earned Income Tax Credits and poverty programs designed to bring the African-American community into the mainstream.Governments, businesses and colleges have engaged in discrimination against white folks - with affirmative action, contract set-asides and quotas -- to advance black applicants over white applicants.Churches, foundations, civic groups, schools and individuals all over America have donated time and money to support soup kitchens, adult education, day care, retirement and nursing homes for blacks.
We hear the grievances. Where is the gratitude?personally, i don't know where to begin since there are so many inaccuracies .. but i waiting for mainstream media to pick up on this like they did rev wright.
Corey
White America needs to be heard from, not just lectured to.This time, the Silent Majority needs to have its convictions, grievances and demands heard. And among them are these:
First, America has been the best country on earth for black folks. It was here that 600,000 black people, brought from Africa in slave ships, grew into a community of 40 million, were introduced to Christian salvation, and reached the greatest levels of freedom and prosperity blacks have ever known.Wright ought to go down on his knees and thank God he is an American.Second, no people anywhere has done more to lift up blacks than white Americans.
Untold trillions have been spent since the '60s on welfare, food stamps, rent supplements, Section 8 housing, Pell grants, student loans, legal services, Medicaid, Earned Income Tax Credits and poverty programs designed to bring the African-American community into the mainstream.Governments, businesses and colleges have engaged in discrimination against white folks - with affirmative action, contract set-asides and quotas -- to advance black applicants over white applicants.Churches, foundations, civic groups, schools and individuals all over America have donated time and money to support soup kitchens, adult education, day care, retirement and nursing homes for blacks.
We hear the grievances. Where is the gratitude?personally, i don't know where to begin since there are so many inaccuracies .. but i waiting for mainstream media to pick up on this like they did rev wright.
Corey
Sunday, March 23, 2008
Good Black Man !
Good Black Men! are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and at work. Most we can't see because we don't know what a good black man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back rather than someone who turns your head.
A good black man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.A good black man is not going to meet every item on your checklist.
He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, 'Aha! I knew you were a dog!'A good black man isn't insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy.
His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!! A good black man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our black men are no good. It's just not true.A good black man is a man of his word.
He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. That is right! A good black man has a love and a heart for his Higher Power. As his relationship and love with that Higher Power grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow. (AMEN!!!)Our beautiful black men, we salute you, apprec iate you and thank you for who you are and all you've done.
Pass this along to some of the Good Black Men you know and a few black women that need to read it .. So that they can recognize a good black man.
A good black man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.A good black man is not going to meet every item on your checklist.
He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, 'Aha! I knew you were a dog!'A good black man isn't insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy.
His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!! A good black man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our black men are no good. It's just not true.A good black man is a man of his word.
He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. That is right! A good black man has a love and a heart for his Higher Power. As his relationship and love with that Higher Power grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow. (AMEN!!!)Our beautiful black men, we salute you, apprec iate you and thank you for who you are and all you've done.
Pass this along to some of the Good Black Men you know and a few black women that need to read it .. So that they can recognize a good black man.
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
How to make a man happy - Resp by numbers please
How To Make Men Happy
10. Charm
Charm is what draws men to those women who are not as good-looking as the others in our black book.
9. A statuesque body
We may not admit this to them, but when we're walking down the street with our women, we want to show them off
8. A beautiful face
A pretty face can get away with murder. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder
7. Honesty & trust
When the games are played, final rounds called, and booty calls over, we want someone we can confide in.
6. R-E-S-P-E-C-T:
The last thing we want, is a woman who lets us down, embarrasses us and makes us out to be fools, especially in public. Gentlemen, there is nothing wrong with admitting that we are excessively proud
5. Sense of humor
This will forever remain a priority for any man. We work hard, we put up with a lot, and we need a woman who will put a smile on our faces when things are gloomy
4. Intelligence & confidence
Previous generations probably preferred a smart woman -- not just book smart, but also street smart.
3. Ambition & drive
If a partner is what you seek, then you will have to find a woman who will challenge your thoughts, stir up your emotions positively and give you a run for your money.
2. Heart of goldIf you are looking to get involved for the long haul, a kind woman with a heart of gold will nurture you and offer the compassion, sincerity, warmth, and affection you need to make it to the top.
1. Love
when all is said and done and the ink has dried up, the first dates turn into the honeymoon stage, and the relationship develops, all men really want is love and sex.
10. Charm
Charm is what draws men to those women who are not as good-looking as the others in our black book.
9. A statuesque body
We may not admit this to them, but when we're walking down the street with our women, we want to show them off
8. A beautiful face
A pretty face can get away with murder. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder
7. Honesty & trust
When the games are played, final rounds called, and booty calls over, we want someone we can confide in.
6. R-E-S-P-E-C-T:
The last thing we want, is a woman who lets us down, embarrasses us and makes us out to be fools, especially in public. Gentlemen, there is nothing wrong with admitting that we are excessively proud
5. Sense of humor
This will forever remain a priority for any man. We work hard, we put up with a lot, and we need a woman who will put a smile on our faces when things are gloomy
4. Intelligence & confidence
Previous generations probably preferred a smart woman -- not just book smart, but also street smart.
3. Ambition & drive
If a partner is what you seek, then you will have to find a woman who will challenge your thoughts, stir up your emotions positively and give you a run for your money.
2. Heart of goldIf you are looking to get involved for the long haul, a kind woman with a heart of gold will nurture you and offer the compassion, sincerity, warmth, and affection you need to make it to the top.
1. Love
when all is said and done and the ink has dried up, the first dates turn into the honeymoon stage, and the relationship develops, all men really want is love and sex.
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